💭 What Really Parts Us from Forever..?

From: The DJB Vault

You ever notice how everyone loves to talk about “forever” when they’re in love?

The posts, the captions, even the tattoos — all promising infinity, but let’s be real: do we even know what “forever” means? Or are we just saying what sounds good, hoping we’ll never have to test the limits of that promise?

The Real Contradiction in Marriage

We all grew up hearing the vows:

“For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part.” It sounds beautiful. There’s a twist — right there in the contract, it tells you: this love has an expiration date. After death, we’re “parted.” So how does that add up with the idea of forever? Is it even real, or just a ritual?

I remember the first time I started thinking deeper about this. Not just as a husband, but as a man who actually believes in forever. The kind of forever that doesn’t end just because a heartbeat does. I realized — most people want that too, but don’t know how to live it, or what it actually costs.

When Symbols Don’t Match Reality

Lately, my wife’s been talking about getting our names tattooed on our ring fingers, adding an infinity sign for “forever.” I get the sentiment — I love the energy, the loyalty it’s supposed to represent. At the same time, I know her mindset is different from mine.

She’s told me, “If you die before me, I wouldn’t want to stay lonely. I’d find someone new.” For her, that’s just realistic. For me? That hit different, because if I marry you, in my heart, I’m already planning to wait for you — on this side or the next.

Maybe that sounds crazy to some, but it’s real for me.

Are We Really Built for Forever?

We’re quick to claim “forever” — to post about soulmates, get matching tattoos, write poetry in our vows. When the hard questions come up, people fold.

• If I’m gone, would you really hold it down?

• Is love just a contract until one of us leaves the earth?

• Is it disloyal to move on, or is that just being human?

If I’m being honest, I wrestle with it. I know marriage is a spiritual contract, not just paperwork. The world wants you to move on quick, “don’t be lonely,” start over, swipe right. Meanwhile, the whole time I thought forever meant forever.

The Energy of Forever

Maybe it’s the super moon tonight, maybe it’s just the season, and I feel things shifting. When you’re married, you can feel when your partner’s energy is off — when they’re holding back, or keeping part of themselves away from you. That’s the part that hurts the most. Not just the fear of losing someone, just the fear that forever wasn’t mutual. That your idea of loyalty was never really theirs.

I know some people will say I’m old-school. Maybe I am. When I commit, I commit all the way. Even after “death do us part,” my soul still moves different.

Some Final Thoughts

If you’re in a relationship, or dreaming of marriage one day, don’t just say “forever” because it sounds pretty. Ask yourself — do you mean it? If your forever and theirs don’t match, you’re both building on sand, not stone.

Maybe forever isn’t a date or a tattoo. Maybe it’s an energy — a decision you renew every day, even when it hurts. Maybe, just maybe, that’s what makes it real.

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If this message hit home, drop a comment. Share this with somebody who’s ever questioned what “forever” really means. If you’ve got a story or belief about marriage and loyalty, let’s talk about it below.

We’re all learning in real time.

—DJB